The Bodhisatta was once a king. He had previously decided that in the future he wanted his daughter to marry his nephew, and when he died they would become king and queen. But when they reached marrying age, he changed his mind and chose to be practical by giving his daughter to another king’s family and bringing in a woman from elsewhere to marry his nephew. Knowing the two were in love and planning to wed, he had his nephew removed from the palace to live in a house outside.
The nephew immediately started scheming to get the princess out of the palace so they could run away together. He gave one of his fingernails to her attendant and told her to discuss the matter with the princess. When they next met, she offered to pick insects out of the princess’s hair, and while doing so scratched her scalp with the prince’s fingernail. The princess recognized it, and now knowing that the prince wanted to help her escape, she gave a cryptic message for the attendant to pass on to the prince: “A soft hand, a well-trained elephant, and a black rain-cloud, gives you what you want.”
The prince bribed the state elephant’s mahout and hired a soft-handed page boy to help him. One night when rain fell from a thick black cloud he rode the elephant into the palace and waited outside the Bodhisatta’s chamber. Since changing his mind about the marriage, the Bodhisatta had not let his daughter out of his sight and she slept on a small bed in his room. Hearing the rain, she told him she wanted to bathe in it and so he stood inside the room and held one of her hands while she stepped out onto the balcony. She held out her free hand to the prince who removed her bangles and put them on the arm of the page boy. Then she put the page’s hand in her father’s and left with the prince. The Bodhisatta took the boy to her bed, not noticing it wasn’t his daughter until the morning. The king was dejected, but understood that women cannot be controlled and decided to forgive them, let them marry, and keep his nephew as the crown prince.
In the Lifetime of the Buddha
One of the Buddha’s disciples became distracted by desires and could no longer concentrate on his studies or meditation. The Buddha, to get him back on track, told this story to explain that it’s impossible for even exceptionally wise men to stop women from pursuing their desires.
The Buddha did not identify any earlier births other than his own.