The Bodhisatta was once a poor man, and when his father died he supported his mother. Shortly before his mother died, she forced him into a marriage against his will. The Bodhisatta decided he wanted to renounce the world and live as an ascetic, but when he told his wife she needed to go find a job and earn her own living, she revealed she was pregnant and asked him to wait until after his child was born. He agreed. After the birth, the Bodhisatta announced he was leaving, but his wife asked him to stay until the child was weaned, and again he agreed. But soon after this, she conceived again and the Bodhisatta knew she would once more ask him to stay behind for his second child, so he decided to flee in the middle of the night without telling her. He tricked the city guards and got out through the main gate and went to the Himalayas. Extremely joyful at having broken his bonds of family, leaving love and desire behind, he reached supernatural attainment and later rebirth in heaven.
In the Lifetime of the Buddha
Thirty disciples from the countryside came to visit the Buddha at his monastery. The next morning as they did their alms round, they passed a prison and saw thieves and murderers bound in chains and in great misery. They asked the Buddha if there was any bond greater than this. He answered that the bond of craving wealth, corn, and family is a thousand times stronger and then told this story to illustrate his point.
The Bodhisatta’s father, mother, wife, and son were earlier births of the Buddha’s father, birth mother, wife, and son.